Welcome to the forum - glad to have you here with all of us. And congrats on making a decision to be patient about owning another basenji. That's what we always need - more responsible basenji/dog owners.
Welcome to the forums. You are always welcome to come out to the local basenji activities and get a basenji fix. Northern and Southern California both have active basenji communities.
Just let us know when you're ready for your own! Amina will have a litter this year, we hope… Of course, you'd have to come to Texas... But you can come and bring your mom and Ella too.
I agree with the others that this is not a common practice among BCOA breeders. I am sorry that this happened to you and yes, you should get your deposit back.